Sunday, January 12, 2020

Stop Trying to Impress

You'll never know who you are unless you shed who you pretend to be.

One of the best things about getting older is that you care less and less about what others think of you. I used wear those spike-heeled, pointy-toed shoes that had to have been designed by a man because nobody who actually had to wear them would have ever created such pain-inducers. I would take them off whenever I could - when I was sitting at my desk, my shoes would be off until someone came in my office and I'd quickly put them back on. When I thought I could get away with it in a meeting, I'd slip those torture devices off and wiggle my toes to get some life back in them. I dreaded walking very far because I knew that my feet would be killing me before I reached my destination. Why oh why did I put myself through such misery?

Finally, in my 50's I had had enough. My feet were constantly aching and, frankly, I wasn't 20-something anymore and didn't need to prove anything. I felt a little odd when I first wore my "sensible" shoes to work but my feet felt so much better, comfort gave way to vanity. It was a relief to let go of what I thought I needed to do and accept what I really wanted to do!

Since then, I am concerned less with what people think, whether it's about my appearance or behavior. I realize what's really important and what's not - I suppose that comes with experience and maturity - and others' opinions about me is definitely not.

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