Wednesday, March 31, 2021

Gossip Is the Devil's Radio

 

Gossip is the Devil's radio. Are you the DJ?

Let's be real. Most of us gossip about others. But why, when we know we shouldn't? And is it necessarily bad?

The Good and the Bad and the Ugly

When you talk behind someone's back, God hears.
We first need to be clear that there is "good" gossip and there is "bad" gossip... and then there's really ugly gossip. These three categories are differentiated by the intent behind sharing the information.

"I heard that Jessica's having a baby!" can be good, bad, or really ugly, depending on the context.

If Jessica's been trying to have a baby for a while and learned that she's finally pregnant, the statement will be delivered as a happy revelation.

If Jessica is an unwed teenager, the statement may be cloaked in judgment and distain.

If Jessica is not, in fact, pregnant, the statement - whether you are just passing along what you heard or you are starting a negative falsehood - can cause unimaginable heartache.

Why We Gossip

One study suggests that over half of our conversations are about "socially relevant topics" which includes talking about people. But is it all bad? Nope.

Entertainment

Sometimes gossip can be fun. Telling a funny story about a mutual friend can be entertaining, as long as it's not malicious. If you're going to engage in this kind of gossip, be sure you understand your motivation so you are using funny stories to ridicule or embarrass.

Informational

My small group at church maintains a prayer list that we update each time we meet. I like going over the list and hearing new information about the people I am praying for. Usually, this is very personal - often medical or financial - information. Relaying this information could easily turn ugly, but, since our motivation is to intercede on their behalf, we would never use that information to hurt those we pray for.

Instructional

A story about my daughter has been circulating for years. Thankfully, it is a story of caution, not one of those ugly rumors. When she was about 12, she absent-mindedly left a candle burning in her bedroom. That might not have been so catastrophic if she had followed my frequent reminders to use candle holders. Instead, she had placed the candle on top of her clock radio which sat on her nightstand. When the flame reached the clock, it quickly caught fire. Thankfully, the fire didn't spread to anything but the nightstand and the house suffered nothing but smoke damage, but it was a tough and expensive lesson about the importance of using a candle holder. The story quickly spread throughout our circle of friends and the adults used it as a safety lesson with their children. Even years later, people will occasionally say "I remember when Maria's room caught on fire. That taught me to always use a candle holder!".

Maliciousness

The ugly gossip usually involves spreading rumors or even factual stories with the intent to tarnish someone's reputation. The co-worker who makes sure everyone knows about the mistake you made or the girl at school who spreads a false rumor just to build up herself. Whatever the reason or method, ugly gossip is, at the least, hurtful but, it can have far-reaching and long-term damaging effects. 

As Exodus 23:1 says, "You must not pass along false rumors. You must not cooperate with evil people by lying on the witness stand."

Keep in mind that ugly gossip says much more about the person spreading it than it does about the subject of the gossip.

How Do I Stop Ugly Gossip?

If you find yourself engaged in gossip for the wrong reasons, here are some steps you can take to squash it:

  • Pray about it. The Holy Spirit can give you the wisdom to recognize ugly gossip and the strength to refrain from participating in it.

  • Put yourself in the place of the subject of your gossip. How would you feel if someone said those things about you?

  • Consider if what you're about to say is something that you want God to hear you say.


  • Follow Paul's advice to the Ephesians: Let everything you say be good and helpful.

  • Think about your motivation for spreading the gossip and address it. Are you jealous? Do you think you have to tear others down to build yourself up? Trying to fit in with other gossipers? I don't have to tell you that those are feelings and actions that need to be addressed in order to maintain a close relationship with Jesus.
Ephesians 4:29 tells us that our words should be an encouragement to those who hear them. In every situation, in every way, that should be our guiding motto. Strive to follow this guidance and  you will not be the source of ugly gossip.



Friday, March 19, 2021

Share Your Story



Your story is the key that can unlock someone else's prison.

“Don’t be afraid to speak from personal experience; in many ways, those vulnerable moments will be the key that unlocks a hardened heart.”  - Luis Palau


There truly is nothing more powerful than sharing how you have been personally affected by your relationship with Jesus. It's easier for people to see themselves in such a relationship when they see how it's affected someone they know rather than just reading words on paper or hearing it from the pulpit. (Not to say that some people don't find Jesus by reading a book or listening to a sermon. They're just more apt to make that important decision if it's more personal.)

For most people, it's exceedingly scary to open up that way. Here are three tips that may make it easier.

Pray about it

God-confidence comes as the Holy Spirit works in us. As we pray and when we make choices that honor God, the Holy Spirit fills us with His power for ministry. Elizabeth George
Talk with God about your anxiety. He understands that it's not your idea of a fun time and He can fill you with confidence that will ease your fears.

 






Realize that it's God's desire

Not only does He expect us to worship Him, He wants us to tell as many people as possible about Him so they can experience His love, too.

Give thanks to the Lord and proclaim his greatness. Let the whole world know what he has done.






Ask God to give you the words

If you're thinking that you can opt out because you're not good at talking with others, Moses already tried that excuse and, well, we know how that worked for him. 

I won't promise any burning bushes, but I can assure you that the right words will come to you at the right time. 

But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes upon you. And you will be my witnesses, telling people about me everywhere.
Today, may God place me in someone's path and give me the words to touch their heart